Cultivating Lovingkindness toward Oneself: A Ritual

December 1, 2008

Stand, fully clothed, in front of a full-length mirror. Answer this question out loud: What in my appearance might keep me from loving myself?

Close your eyes. Take five deep breaths. When you open them, think of the person in the mirror as someone you’ve just met and for whom you’re strongly attracted in spite of any faults. See this person looking back at you with love. When you feel this love, close your eyes and, for about five minutes, touch your face and body with as loving a touch as you can. Continue to touch yourself with eyes open as you slowly undress yourself as you would a lover. Take full deep breaths.

When you are naked, again look at yourself and answer the same question: What in my appearance might keep me from loving myself?

Close your eyes. Take five deep breaths. Open your eyes and look at the person in the mirror. Think of him as someone with whom you’re about to have sex for the first time. See this person looking back at you with love. Close your eyes and, for about five minutes, touch your face and body with as much love as you can. Don’t focus on the genitals; don’t ignore them.

Put some oil in one hand. Anoint each chakra point as you breathe into it.

If you choose, focus on genital stimulation. Bring yourself to ejaculation or work up to a big draw.

End this ritual by sitting cross-legged, eyes closed. Feel energy from your heart expanding through your whole body. Visualize walking outdoors naked, connected with the earth, being loved by the Universe, and loving the whole Universe. If you live in a secluded area, as I do at Easton Mountain, you might conclude this ritual by walking outdoors naked..

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