Folleterre and the Serenity Prayer

May 11, 2009

Last August I posted an article that quoted Niebuhr’s Serenity Prayer. This prayer begins, “God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed.”  My trip to Folleterre tested my ability to accept what I cannot change.

Whenever I visit a radical faerie sanctuary, there’s always some tasks that would be simple at home but become much more complex and difficult at the sanctuary – and these tasks are always different at each sanctuary.  At Folleterre, one of the difficult tasks was showering.

Water for showers is heated in a steel drum over an open fire.  Then to get your shower, you must get a friend to help.  One of you dips a large watering can in the hot water and adjusts the temperature by adding cold water if necessary.  Then you stand on a spot with bricks in the ground to promote good drainage, while your friend, on a somewhat higher spot pours the water over you.

My friend Nathan getting a shower

My friend Nathan getting a shower



So it requires two people to get a shower, though the man pouring can handle more than one bather if they stand close together.  I took one shower with two other men.

At one of the circles, we discussed possible improvements  to Folleterre’s property, and someone said they hoped we would never change the method of showering.

There were other challenges to my ability to accept – days that started out sunny, only to turn cloudy and cool by noon and remain so for the rest of the day.  But acceptance of this new way of showering brought some fun that I wouldn’t have had if conventional showers had been installed.

One Response to “Folleterre and the Serenity Prayer”

  1. Amethyst Wolf said

    It’s true than Folleterre gives you a lot of things to accept. For me, it was my first experience messing with guys wearing female clothes and the acceptance path wasn’t always easy.

    A side note about the showers: the watering can weight allows one to bring it and pours it oneself, without external help. But of course that removes all social interaction.

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