Erotic Spirituality

Affirmations for Sacred Sex

These sentences are for working with a partner. If you’re practicing solo sex, you can modify these affirmations.  Read more.

Awakening a Partner’s Chakras

I had three hours of great sex with my boyfriend. Then we slept with our bodies pressed against each other. In the morning, we used this method to awaken each other’s chakras.  Read more.

A Cock Mandala

I spent a weekend away from my boyfriend. The first day that I was away, he sent me an e-mail asking: “What do you think would be a good meditation that would satisfy all my body, mind and spiritual needs today?” Read more.

Cock Power Is God Power

My boyfriend and I were meditating, lying on our sides gazing into each other’s eyes, naked, each with one hand on our partner’s cock, the other on our partner’s chest. Read more.

“Don’t Try So Hard”

My first experience of erotic massage was in 1988, in a workshop led by Joseph Kramer. I remember him saying that each experience of erotic massage was different and we needed to accept each experience for what it was. Read more.

Enemas for Ritual Purification

I must admit that I’m a “clysterphile” (from clyster, meaning enema, with a suffix from philos,  love). Sometime in my adolescence I figured out that if my cock were hard, – Read more.

Erotic Self-Massage for a Man

You’ve done the Preparation and awakened your body. Now focus on specific techniques. Avoid the stroke you learned in adolescence – one hand up and down the shaft. – Read more.

Erotic Self-Massage for a Woman

You’ve done the Preparation for Erotic Self Massage. You’ve awakened your body as described in “Techniques for Erotic Self Massage.” Now it’s time to focus on specific techniques you can use as a woman. – Read more.

Erotic Spirituality

November, 1988 – :”Healing the Body Erotic” with Joseph Kramer: thirty men gathered in a dance studio. I knew about half of them. By the end of the weekend, I felt bonded to them all. – Read more.

“The Expanded Version of Me”

I’m writing the first draft of this posting during Eros Spirit Camp at Easton Mountain. When the idea for having six days of erotic workshops in EM’s camp format was first present, I was skeptical. – Read more.

Inner Self and Outer World

This past weekend I was one of the facilitators for a retreat at Easton Mountain called Expressing Your Inner Self. Friday evening we had a session on poetry led by the published poet, Douglas Allen. At the end of the session I wrote the following: Read more.

A Man’s Ritual for Opening the Sexual Chakra

Materials needed: oil, a bowl holding about a quart of water, and five stones or crystals (if possible, stones associated with the root, power, heart, throat and third-eye chakras). – Read more.

Meditation After the Big Draw

As Joe Kramer teaches erotic massage, the time after the big draw is spent lying still on the table. The masseur may cover his partner with a sheet, though I often request my masseur not to do this. – Read more.

More on “The Expanded Version of Me”

Last Tuesday, one of the summer volunteers at Easton Mountain had a small sign hanging from his neck: “I am in silence.”  Read more.

Partner Sexercises

This past weekend, I spent a night with my boyfriend. In the morning, we worked on seeing how the “sexercises” that I posted last week could work for partners. – Read more.

Preparation for Erotic Self Massage

You’ll need privacy. You’ll need oil or lubricant. Many men prefer warm coconut oil, while women often have a favorite personal lubricant. – Read more.

Sexercises

A friend of mine recently shared his sex-step exercise routine with me.  1.I place a cock ring or two around my grateful balls.  Read more.

Sex Magick

Sex magick is the use of sex to bypass the part of the mind that inhibits manifestation. It begins with an intention. I might set an intention for the success of a workshop—or even for something greater, like world peace. – Read more.

Tantric Practices

From the beginning, this blog has been devoted to spiritual exploration. The tools for exploration have been, for the most part, those that I’ve developed and tested  – Read more.

Techniques for Erotic Self Massage

Begin your session with the physical motions for the chakras given in my previous postings (Awakening the Chakras, Parts I-VII). They will prepare your body to circulate erotic energy and help you get in touch with your breathing. – Read more.

What is Spirituality?

Earlier this month I spent a weekend with two hundred thirty-nine other men at an gathering of S/M enthusiasts. During an encounter with a friend, I began to explore the possibility of a spiritual side of S/M.  Read more.

“When I’m Hard, I’m Smarter”

The title to this post comes from a video in Joseph Kramer’s “Gay Sex Wisdom” series. This video is a talk and performance by Josh Schafer in which he explores what he has learned from many sessions of sharing erotic touch with men. – Read more.